When leaders lose power, and do anything to stay in power – 1st Samuel 18 & 19, Part 3

When you are a leader and your role, position, and power is taken from you, it can be very difficult to give up that power. A quick glance throughout history shows kings, presidents, CEOs, pastors, and many other leaders unwilling to give up power. In our story of the monarchy in ancient Israel, as told in 1st Samuel, we have been watching King Saul and his battle to stay in power. But in this post, we start with his rival, the man who has been anointed to be the next king, but is not yet king, David.

Things continue to go well for David.  Look at 1st Samuel chapter 18, verses 5-7,

“Whatever mission Saul sent him on, David was so successful that Saul gave him a high rank in the army. This pleased all the troops, and Saul’s officers as well. When the men were returning home after David had killed the Philistine, the women came out from all the towns of Israel to meet King Saul with singing and dancing, with joyful songs and with timbrels and lyres. As they danced, they sang: ‘Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands.’”

God was with David. Remember when David was anointed king, the Spirit of God came upon David with power, and now basically anything David touches turns to gold.  In short order, he’s gone from no-name shepherd boy to a household name with military victories.  People were singing songs about him.  That’s good news for David, but also bad news.  The current king was still sitting on the throne, taking this all in.  Look at verses 8-9,

“Saul was very angry; this refrain displeased him greatly. ‘They have credited David with tens of thousands,’ he thought, ‘but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?’ And from that time on Saul kept a close eye on David.”

It’s often not a good thing when the government is keeping its eye on you.  And we’ve already heard stories of King Saul’s Big Brother complex.  Back in chapter 16 when God told Samuel to go to Bethlehem to anoint the new king, Samuel was afraid that Saul was watching him.  It is likely Saul had a network of spies.  In fact, we will meet some of them later this week. 

Saul was paranoid.  Hear his fear and jealousy in verse 8, “What more can David get but the kingdom?”  Remember that Samuel had already told Saul that God was taking the Kingdom from him.  Saul is like those who are in power and then lose it.  The get jealous and desperate and come up with all sorts of desperate attempts to hold on to power.  For now, he’s watching this new kid who seems to have a knack for doing everything right, and Saul is very concerned.

Soon enough, though, Saul’s passive watching turns into action.  Look at verses 10-11,

“The next day an evil spirit from God came forcefully on Saul. He was prophesying in his house, while David was playing the lyre, as he usually did. Saul had a spear in his hand and he hurled it, saying to himself, ‘I’ll pin David to the wall.’ But David eluded him twice.”

Well, that escalated fast.  Something very dark is going on inside Saul.  We already learned in chapter 16 about the evil spirit that oppresses Saul, and how David was brought in as a kind of ancient musical therapist to soothe Saul.  But that was when David was a nobody. Now David is a somebody.  And his lyre-playing now has the opposite effect. 

Also, Saul is having a particularly bad oppressive episode.  When we read that he was prophesying, that means Saul was acting erratically, with ecstatic speech.  And Saul loses it, trying to kill David twice by throwing a spear at him.  Twice David ducks out of the way.  If I’m David, I’m freaked out at this point.  But notice verse 12.

It is Saul who is afraid of David!  Why?  Because David had the Lord with him.  Saul can see that what Saul once had, the Spirit of the Lord, now David has.  That’s got to be a foreboding sign for Saul.  David has the empowerment that only prophets and kings have in this era of the Old Testament.  Saul has lost that empowerment, just as God said that the kingdom would be taken from Saul.  It infuriates Saul.  So what does Saul do? 

In verses 13-16 he sends David away with the military, increasing David’s rank and responsibility.  Maybe Saul thinks he just can’t have David around.  Maybe he thinks David will die in battle.  We’re not sure what Saul has in mind here.  But it works to David’s advantage for sure, because the Lord is with David, and he is constantly victorious.  David’s name and reputation is growing.  And that makes Saul even more afraid.  Now what will Saul do?

Let me summarize verses 17-30.  Saul decides to arrange a marriage between David and one of his daughters.  David humbly turns him down, saying that he, David, is not royalty and thus isn’t worthy to marry Saul’s daughter.  But before we go any further, why would Saul want David to marry his daughter in the first place?

Saul has a devious plan here.  He doesn’t really want David to be his son-in-law.  It’s not some scenario of keep your friends close and your enemies closer.  No.  As we will see, Saul is trying to get rid of David. How so? Take a look at what Saul does next.

When David says No to Saul’s offer of his first daughter, Saul then offers David the hand of his other daughter, Michal, who loves David.  That brief phrase, “Michal loved David,” summarizes what would probably make for 3-4 episodes if this was turned into a TV show.  It very well could be that David loves her too, or is attracted to her. Michal could certainly be flirting with David long before this idea from Saul. But again, Saul is not interested in being a match maker. He wants to get rid of David. So Saul hatches what he believes is a genius plan.

Saul makes the bride price for marrying Michal a hundred dead Philistines (well, actually, Saul’s offer is a bit more graphic than that, but I’ll let you read about that on your own in the text).  Saul thinks that if David goes out to battle and is required to kill a hundred Philistines, David will likely die in battle.  Saul wants David dead.

But the Lord is with David, and David and his men kill 200 Philistines! David marries Michal, leading Saul to grow ever more afraid of David.  David’s success and reputation in the military continues to grow, but let’s focus on the fact that Saul is afraid of David. Saul is not done. His grand idea to get rid of David didn’t work, but he has more ideas. We’ll find out about Saul dark devious plans in the next post.

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What to do when there is a power imbalance in your relationships – 1st Samuel 18 & 19, Part 2

Who is the most powerful or wealthy or famous person you know?

I know a state senator, and he’s often in the news.  We worked together for three years right after college, we were in a Bible study together, spent a lot of time together. But it’s been a while since we hung out or talked. 

What about you? Imagine you have a friend who is wealthy. They know they have way more money than you, and they know you know it too.  Because of that, they likely pay when you go out for meals.  You kinda feel like they should pay because they got the money. 

But over time, that power imbalance can develop into a weird dynamic between you.  Power dynamics studies refer to this as the “Up” position versus the “Down” position. It can feel like the person in the Down position (you) is dependent on the Up position person (your wealthy friend).  How can you have equality and genuine friendship when there is an imbalance of power in the relationship?  It can work, but it can be awkward and difficult. Often, a relationship with a power imbalance does not work.

Can it work for a crown prince to be best friends with a peasant shepherd?  In 1st Samuel chapter 18, that is Prince Jonathan and Shepherd boy David. Yet, we read in the previous post that they are becoming friends. Is this possible. Do you see the power differential between them?  One person is clearly in the Up position, and one is in the Down position.  Jonathan holds all the power in this relationship.  David has none.  While it might be thrilling to be in relationship with a powerful, wealthy or famous friend, it might also be difficult.

Look at what Jonathan does in verse 4 to make his relationship with David start off on the right foot.  He gives his robe, his tunic, sword, bow, and belt to David.  Jonathan who has all the power divests himself of the symbols of his power.  Of course David does not slide into the Up position just because he changes into Jonathan’s princely clothing.  Yet in this selfless act of friendship we see Jonathan’s heart and desire for equality with David.  In a relationship where there is a power imbalance, for that relationship to thrive, we are wise to do what Jonathan did, and take action to bring equality. 

Another aspect of Jonathan’s action is its prophetic symbolism.  Jonathan, without even knowing he’s doing it, is depicting the truth. David is already the anointed king to be.  David is the one who will be in the Up position in the future, by God’s decree.  That’s far off in the future, but we get the symbolism. 

All told, this is an interesting encounter between these two men, Jonathan and David, as they forge a unique best friendship in a very short time.  Through their friendship, we can learn about how to have healthy friendships. We’re going to study their friendship more next week.  For now, though, Jonathan’s sacrificial act of reaching out to David, of including David, of seeking to be on equal, level ground with David, is an example for us to evaluate our friendships. 

Are we seeking that kind of mutuality and equality and self-sacrifice in our friendships?  Think about your top 5 closest friendships.  Write down their names right now.  Evaluate how you are doing in being a friend to them.  Ask the Spirit to help you evaluate your heart and mind when it comes to those relationships.  Consider what steps of selflessness you might need to take, just like Jonathan did.

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My struggle with my basement – 1st Samuel 18 & 19, Part 1

I don’t like the basement in my house. 

First of all, just getting into the basement is odd.  The current placement of the basement steps is not original to the house.  The previous owner did a near total rehab on the living areas of the house, and that necessitated moving the location of the basement steps.  But there must not have been many options for where to put the basement steps.  So they were left with a location that does not allow for a normal amount of landing space at the bottom of the steps.  It’s a tight squeeze. 

Also, the ceiling is really low.  I cannot stand in my basement.  Whenever I’m down there, I have to duck. 

It’s also not a finished basement.  The walls are bare, and the floor is part concrete, part dirt. The walls are over 100 years old, and they let some moisture in.  The section under our living room is a dirt crawl space.  I could go on and on. I don’t like our basement. 

Do you have something like that in your life?  Maybe it’s your house, your yard, a vehicle, your job.  There are all sorts of situations in our lives that we don’t like.  As a result, we can feel an unsettled feeling inside us.  Discontent. 

Discontentedness can lead us down a very dark road.

That discontent can linger and grow. Especially in our culture, when we are regularly fed images, mostly through advertising, of how we can make our lives better.  The thoughts capture our imaginations.  “If I just had ___ (fill in the blank), I would be happy.”   We dream of it.  We see others who have it, and we get jealous.  We can fixate on it.  In today’s sermon, we watch as discontent decimates one person.

In our study of the Life of David, King Saul is on a downward spiral, while David is on the rise.  And that brings us to 1st Samuel chapter 18.  Let’s read the first few verses:

“After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself. From that day Saul kept David with him and did not let him return home to his family. And Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. Jonathan took off the robe he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his tunic, and even his sword, his bow and his belt.”

David’s life has just changed completely.  Prior to defeating Goliath, even though David was anointed to be the next king, David was a no-name shepherd who sometimes played music for the current king Saul.  Now after defeating Goliath, David becomes best friends with King Saul’s son Jonathan, and Saul brings David to his residence permanently. 

This is the stuff of movie scripts.  One day you’re working for the weekend, and the next day through a wild series of events, you’re a fixture in the White House.  We dream about that kind of fortune.  We dream about posting something on social media that goes viral.  We dream about hitting the lottery.  We dream about a promotion.  About starting our own business.  We dream about making it big.  For David, it’s happening. 

Particularly, notice how it happens in David’s relationship with Jonathan, the crown prince.  Remember how Jonathan was a courageous warrior who trusted in God?  That was here in chapter 14.  In many ways, David and Jonathan are similar.  It makes sense that they would become close friends.  They both have hearts for God.  They both are fierce warriors.   In these verses we just read that Jonathan makes a covenant with David, and that covenant will factor into this story many times over in the future. 

What is fascinating about this covenant is how much Jonathan is taking the initiative to make it happen.  Consider the relationship’s starting point.  David and Jonathan’s relationship have an imbalance in its starting point.  Jonathan is the crown prince.  David is a no-name peasant shepherd boy. 

Yes, David has already been anointed to be the next king, but that was in a secret ceremony.  Jonathan would not have known about that secret anointing when David and Jonathan first meet.  

And if I was David, I would not tell Jonathan that Samuel anointed me to be the next king.   At least not yet.  That’s not the kind of info you blurt out on first meeting someone, especially someone who might be your rival.  David is wise to not talk about his secret anointing until he has assurance that he can trust Jonathan. 

But wouldn’t it be normal to be the other way around? Shouldn’t David be trying to become friends with Jonathan?  Why is Jonathan so eager to be friends with David? We’ll talk about it further in the next post!

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Can you figure out this modern parable? – 1 Samuel 18 & 19, Preview

See if you can figure out the meaning of this modern parable:

A missionary comes upon a Samoan, who is lying around on the beach.

MISSIONARY: Look at you! You’re just wasting your life away lying around like that!

SAMOAN: Why? What do you think I should be doing?

MISSIONARY: Well, there are plenty of coconuts all around here. Why not dry some copra and sell it?

SAMOAN: And why would I want to do that?

MISSIONARY: Well, you could make a lot of money, and with the money you make, you could get a drying machine, and dry copra faster and make even more money!

SAMOAN: OK. And why would I want to do that?

MISSIONARY: Well, you’d be rich! You could buy land, plant more trees, expand operations. At that point, you wouldn’t even have to do the physical work anymore, you could just hire a bunch of other people to do it for you!

SAMOAN: OK. And why would I want to do that?

MISSIONARY: Well, eventually, with all that copra, land, machines, employees, and all that money, you could retire a rich man. You wouldn’t have to do anything! You could just lie on the beach all day!

This parable is from David Graeber’s book Debt: The First 5000 Years As we continue our Life of David series next week, we will be studying 1 Samuel chapters 18 & 19.  Read the story in those chapters ahead of time, and see if you can determine how this parable relates. This is one that I think you’ll find applies to our lives in 2024!

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Three practices to overcome fear – 1st Samuel 17, Part 5

In 2018 I blogged a series titled “Characters” where I featured a number of famous Bible stories. One of those was David & Goliath from 1st Samuel chapter 17. Now in 2024, I am blogging through 1st and 2nd Samuel, and we’ve reached chapter 17. This week, I’m reblogging the “Characters” posts about David & Goliath. Here’s part 5:

Why David & Goliath is not an underdog story – 1st Samuel 17, Part 4

In 2018 I blogged a series titled “Characters” where I featured a number of famous Bible stories. One of those was David & Goliath from 1st Samuel chapter 17. Now in 2024, I am blogging through 1st and 2nd Samuel, and we’ve reached chapter 17. This week, I’m reblogging the “Characters” posts about David & Goliath. Here’s part 4:

Is your view of life upside-down? – 1st Samuel 17, Part 3

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In 2018 I blogged a series titled “Characters” where I featured a number of famous Bible stories. One of those was David & Goliath from 1st Samuel chapter 17. Now in 2024, I am blogging through 1st and 2nd Samuel, and we’ve reached chapter 17. This week, I’m reblogging the “Characters” posts about David & Goliath. Here’s part 3:

Distraction from the main thing – 1st Samuel 17, Part 2

In 2018 I blogged a series titled “Characters” where I featured a number of famous Bible stories. One of those was David & Goliath from 1st Samuel chapter 17. Now in 2024, I am blogging through 1st and 2nd Samuel, and we’ve reached chapter 17. This week, I’ll reblog the “Characters” posts about David & Goliath. Here’s part 2:

Do you have crippling fear? – 1st Samuel 17, Part 1

In 2018 I blogged a series titled “Characters” where I featured a number of famous Bible stories. One of those was David & Goliath from 1st Samuel chapter 17. Now in 2024, I am blogging through 1st and 2nd Samuel, and we’ve reached chapter 17. This week, I’ll reblog the “Characters” posts about David & Goliath. Here’s part 1:

When our fears come out to haunt us – 1st Samuel 17, Preview

Perhaps you’re like me and you have strange dreams while you’re sleeping.  I find that my most bizarre dreams happen in the early morning, just before I wake up.  This past week while on vacation, I had one of those early morning dreams, and in the dream Faith Church had one of those old-style marquee outdoor signs with the chunky red letters, the kind of signs that theaters often used.  But in the dream Faith Church’s property was along Route 222 here in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, where Lancaster Bible College is located.  Somehow in my dream, three geographical places merged into one.  Faith Church, LBC, and the marquee, which is from my brother’s place of employment, The Marriage Hub in E-town (in fact, they have a webpage dedicated to the sign!).  

The dream gets crazier.  Two people from one of the churches that rents from Faith Church were working on placing a message on the marquee.  And the red chunky letters were really chunky.  Each letter was the thickness of toaster oven.  I’ve seen the letters that go on The Marriage Hub’s marquee, and while they are bigger than I expected, they aren’t the size of toaster ovens.  In the dream as the rental people were pulling a letter off the shelf, it was so heavy, they dropped it and it shattered on the ground.  

In my dream, I felt fear.  Fear?  Why?  Because I thought, “What would people at Faith Church say when they found out that one of our renters did something to damage our property?”  

There you have it.  A window into my psychosis. In other words, that’s the kind of thing I think and feel on a regular basis because it is a part of my real world.  And out it comes in my dreams.  Fear often comes out in our dreams.  So, what do you fear?  Have you had any dreams lately that exposed your inner fears?  

This coming week on the blog we continue our series on the Life of David, and we’re going to be talking about dealing with fear.  We’ve barely met David, and in fact we haven’t heard him utter a single word.  All we know is that Samuel anointed David to be the next king of Israel, and after that momentous event, David went right back to tending sheep.  That is, until the current king, Saul, needed a musical therapist, and his attendants learned that David was not only a good shepherd, but he was also quite the budding musician.  So, from time to time, David would visit Saul and soothe his troubled spirit with music.  

Everything is about to change for David, as we will learn this coming week on the blog when we study 1st Samuel 17.  I urge you to read this famous chapter ahead of time.  See if you can notice the theme of fear. In our posts next week, we learn how to address our fears.

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